The six types of nonlistening forms that were discussed in this chapter were: pseudolistening which means pretending to listen, monopolizing as in only continuously focusing communication on ourselves instead of listening to the person talking, selective listening that only focuses on particular parts of communication, defensive listening which means perceiving personal attacks, criticism, etc that is not critical or mean-spirited, ambushing that's only purpose is to attack the speaker, and literal listening where everything is taken literally and pays no attention to the relationship level of meaning.
I believe the type of nonlistening form that I engage in the most in my everyday life is pseudolistening. This happens because I get distracted very easily and my mind wanders off a lot. In the morning before I leave for school, my mom usually tells me all these precautionary rules and I appear to be listening, but I'm really just too into my phone. In my history class, I am not concentrated in class and only seem to be listening when in reality I'm day dreaming or surfing the internet when I get ahead of note taking. I do get worried sometimes that I'm not receiving important information because my mind is always elsewhere. I believe I can fix this by using my technology devices less often because that seems to be the number one reason why I cannot concentrate on one thing. I'm always distracted by social networks, phone calls, and text messages. I absolutely believe that having less time on my phone and laptop can help me be a better listener.
I agree with you that spending less time on your phone will be good for you. Something that I realized is that cell phones disconnect you from reality sometimes. Everyone is so concentrated on their phone or other electronic devices and totally forget to socialize with other people, especially their family members. It's nice to have so much available to you at your finger tips but is that really good? Especially when majority of the population has such a hard time weaning off the addiction. I still remember when cell phones black and white and when text messaging was first invented. And I'd just be admiring the fact that this chunk of metal and plastic was the solution to help people socialize and bring them closer together, but, in fact, it seems to have done the opposite.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post. Pseudo listening is probably the concept that applies to me most as well. I never thought that the reason this was happening to me was because of my phone. After reading your post and reflecting on the reasons that my mind may wander off in class, I completely agree that one of the main reasons that I am always just pretending to listen. If I spent less time on my phone in class or even when I am with my family and friends. I may not have such a problem with constantly being distracted. Very good post.
ReplyDeleteI really agree with you that using your cell phone is very distracting. When I’m bored in class I always resort to my phone and end up missing the whole lesson. I have also used it when I think I’m ahead of the notes, I usually get too distracted with my phone and end up falling behind in my notes. You should try not taking your laptop to class and turning off your phone or leaving it in your backpack. I’ve tried it before and it actually worked. In my geology class I actually turned off my phone and put it in my backpack. Even if you're not using your phone if someone texts you you will end up being distracted.
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