Sunday, November 4, 2012
Week 11 discussion - Question 3
On this chapter, the "Don't sweat the small stuff" really stood out to me because sometimes I do have the tendency to focus on the little things that my friends do wrong rather than looking past it and remembering all the good that they have done. I feel like all the little things that do irritate me makes me think that they're not worthy of being friends with, but in reality I'm just blinded by those irritations. For example, I have a friend that always changes plans whenever we hang out. One of my biggest pet peeves is plans not going accordingly because then I get stressed and anxious. She does almost every time and for some reason, I've made up in my head that she's also a bad friend in other aspects even though she really wasn't. The small stuff that irritated caused me to make up all these other things just because I was annoyed. I blew up on her and our friendship really has not been the same since then. I wish that I didn't let all the small stuff get in my head and make me a little bit delusional because now that everything is said and done, I do believe she was a great friend.
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I agree with you when you talk about not sweating the small stuff. I think it is really important to pick your battles because this will ensure a long successful friendship. We all have our differences and there will always be times when we don’t agree with each others differences. In these instances we need to identify whether these differences are significant enough to pick a fight over. I think when it is something little you need to just let it roll of your shoulder. I think my pet peeve is also when plans don’t go accordingly. I like to have a plan and when it goes array I need to be able to adapt.
ReplyDeleteI agree that it's important not to take "the small stuff" too seriously. I often do this without meaning to. However, I don't often express that I'm upset about the small things. Rather, I think about it and let all my upset-ness build up within me and then I eventually crack and get really upset with whoever it is over something completely insignificant or trivial. After reading this chapter I've been trying to monitor when I get upset over the small stuff and ask myself if it's really something worth getting upset about. I think it's really helped a lot so far.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I think this was a great topic to cover as you have a personal experience with it. If only I could not sweat the small stuff more often as well my friendships would be more prosperous. It is a very hard task but very rewarding for both ourselves and our friends if we are able to let things go. There are times when I get anxious too and it gets the best of me. My bad experiences often hinder my perspective on a person and I fail to see past the negative. It’s great that you were able to notice that, who knows maybe if you tell your friend how you feel your friendship can grow from this experience and become stronger. I would definitely appreciate it as a friend!
ReplyDeleteI thought this was a very interesting section also because it is something that almost everyone does in one way or another. I know that I try not to let little things bother me in my relationships but sometimes still let them. I know a problem I tend to have is letting a lot of little things that annoy me build up and create a larger problem. If I truly just did not let the little things bother me in the first place I would not have this problem. I also tend to not be able to figure out if something is a big or little deal. I feel like a lot of people tend to blow things out of proportion which makes little problems big problems.
ReplyDeleteI fully agree with you! I have a tendency to focus on the little things, not because I like to get angry at people or poke holes in everything. It's more because I want to be the best I can be and I find I am often frustrated with myself and my ability to perform in relationships. The other day I was upset I couldn't cook a certain food for my boyfriend. I wasn't mad that he could do it and I couldn't, I was frustrated that I wasn't skilled enough to impress him. It was literally the dumbest thing ever and he started making me laugh about how silly it was. He told me exactly that "Don't sweat the small stuff". I really have been trying to work on not worrying about the small, insignificant details that really aren't worth getting frustrated over.
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